My parents, may Allah be pleased on them

�They want to choose for me everything even my friends�.� 

In the Saheehayn (i.e. Bukhaaree and Muslim) from the Hadeeth of Aboo Moosaa, (radiyallaahu �anhu) that he said: The Messenger of Allaah, (sallallaahu �alayhi wa sallam) said, 

�The example of the righteous companion and the evil companion is like the person that sells musk and the blacksmith. The person that sells musk will either give you some or you may buy some from im. The blacksmith will either burn your clothes or you will find a repugnant odor from him�. 

In addition, the Prophet, (sallallaahu �alayhi wa sallam) has said,

�A man is on the Deen (religion) of his friend, so beware as to whom you take as a friend.� 

And the poet said,�Do not ask about the person but ask about his companionship, For every person exemplifies his companion.�  

  May Allah bless you brother, I like these hadithes but I believe I am adult enough to choose the good friends myself. I do not have any bad friends, alhamdilillah, at least I am trying not to have them.

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�They want to control me.�  Perhaps they want what�s best for you.  Parents are generally excellent in gauging their children�s level of maturity � decision making abilities, and �control� accordingly.

 I know they want the best for me. I never doubt about this. But I want them to teach me the best and then let me choose for myself not them. I will never blame them for my choice.

�Even worse, they get mad when I say NO or when I say :["I think this is right or wrong."]�

 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal. (31:14)

Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say:  My Lord! Bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood. (17:23)

 I know that Allah insists a lot on being kind to your parents that He joined them with worship no god but HIM. Believe me, I am so kind to them, I am trying and may Allah forgive me for my sins. I am posting her because I want to please them. I just want them to give me the chance to choose my life the way I want and watch me  from a distance. I can not say this directly cause it will hurt them so bad and they will misunderstand me.

�I have to face my life myself and want them to get this message. I am mistaken in this?

   They do not listen cause they have some believes in their minds and  never want to change them. How to please Allah and my parents and at the same time have my own free life???�

With freedom there comes a whole host of responsibilities, therefore do your best to abide by their rules and raise your issues and complaints at times other than when you are being admonished.  Bring your issue at time when your parents are in a good mood and yourself as well.

 I know they are so nice, may Allah bless them and reward them for what they are doing with me. I pray for them. But it is hard when they are too careful, in the way that they never think I can take the responsibility of my own life. 

  Really, may Allah bless you and raise your rank for your help and this time to gave to help me, brother Abu Ayisha.

  And that hadithes about friends really made me ponder for sometime. Maybe I should give more attention to kind of friends I have. But I have never seen my friends doing bad things.