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    Posted: 04 January 2016 at 10:08pm
Asak,

I do not have many words to say, and I feel very nu?-frecently found text msgs on my sisters phone that showed me she had sex multiple times with an older man. I do not know who he is, but that he is married.

Im extremely scared right now because I never ever in a,billion years thought that could happen. My older sis is 19 and I am 18, she is unmarried as well. She chats and calls a lot of boys in highschool and I tried to stop her, but they were usualy overseas indians and pakistanis, and we live in Canada. So I kind of forgot about it.

I cannot tell my,parents because my dad is a heart patient and im fearing for his health.

What would be the best course of action... im thinking to sit down and talk ti her... usually she just ignores me though. Help please :(
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Asak?

Asalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa barakatuhu

First of all you got this information by reading her text behind her back so be careful what you say to her. I think you should talk to her in a nice way and tell her that you overheard her talking to her lover ( another lie but I think this is way better than telling her that you read her text messages). Also remember that you cannot control her as she is older than you and she may belittle you in that respect but just tell he what she is doing is wrong and to stop it. You can also advise her that she can do what she likes with her life once she leaves home and is independent but as she is living with her parents tell her to show some respect towards them.

The really bad thing about this is that you cannot do anything about this as she is now an adult, but you can tell her what is right and what is wrong and In Shaa Allah she will come round and stop what she is doing.
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wa alaikum salaam, and welcome Stargirl! I would assume that your sister's phone and her communications are a private matter, unless you both share this phone, or she has given you password access. Perhaps what you have read in these messages do not indicate what you think.
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Thank you for your reply but I am 100%sure. I do not want to post what it said. I know for sure that it happened.
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Recite some verses of Quran to bring fear of Allah in her such as Allah in ch 17 v 32 of Quran forbids adultery and fornication.
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Originally posted by stargirl786 stargirl786 wrote:

Thank you for your reply but I am 100%sure. I do not want to post what it said. I know for sure that it happened.


Certainty would require having witnessed the occurrence, therefore you should make excuses to protect your sister's dignity for what you have read, and do not seek to uncover the faults of others.
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Thank you. I will be looking for the pages where it states the punishments of fornication.
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ABUAYISHA:

I hope you know that if I did not look at those messages this would be continuously going on. The chatting, calling and the meetups. I believe Allah gave me this information so that I could do something about it.

In addition, I did not want to overload with details, but she screenshot a lot of pages about birth control, and signs of pregnancy.

Also, she wrote a little online text document stating when and what she had done.

I do not wish to use this information against her, I want her to understand that this is a sin and it is hurting her. That is the problem because we have the worst relationship.

Edited by stargirl786 - 07 January 2016 at 11:12am
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