|
I’m so BORED! |
Post Reply 
|
Page 123 4> |
| Author | |
Moona 
Groupie 
Joined: 11 April 2006 Status: Offline Points: 48 |
 Post Options
 Thanks(0)
 Quote Reply
 Topic: I’m so BORED!Posted: 16 April 2006 at 8:48pm |
 I am SO BORED with my life! I love my husband,but I get angrey with him because we NEVER go anywhere,never DO anything.The only time I go out of the house is to buy food.That's it. I desperately want a pet,a cat,or something,but we are planning on going home by this time next year,so it would not be fair to an animal to take it in,love it,only to have to give it up in a year. I'm happy one day,then bored and mad the next. My husband PROMISED me he would take me to the local Araquirium(I love anything from the ocean)a month ago,and has yet to take me. I think I'll go by myself this week! I get mad with my husband,because he said that this year would be a year of sacrafice,him working very hard,so that we can build our dream home,but he isnt working more than a couple of day's a week.He usually stay's up all night watching television and drinking coffee,then sleeps all the day. I dont know,but that sleeping all the day really REALLY irritates me. Especially since I am supporting the both of us,PLUS putting money into savings for our home to be built. If he just had a good job,and went to work every day,I wouldnt start feeling that anger. He has had a hard time being away from our family for the first time ever in his life.I guess we're just both having a hard time. Am I being pety? We've been doing this same routine for the last 3 years!I feel sometimes like I'm about to EXPLODE inside. Our greatest saddness when we came to America,is that we have a relative here who my husband had not seen in 17 years,who we THOUGHT would be loving and kind to us,but instead has been very very mean to us,and who we now do not see because they cause us too much saddness. It's so complicated. I dont know if I can survive ANOTHER year like the last 3.No pets,no home I can call my own,no family,doing nothing all the time....HELP!
|
|
|
Moonie
|
|
 |
|
|
Suleyman
Senior Member 
Joined: 10 March 2003 Location: Turkey Status: Offline Points: 3324 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 17 April 2006 at 10:41am |
|
Dear DavidC,please clerify the man does
 , u are an expert on the issue...
|
|
|
|
|
Hayfa
Senior Member
Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 17 April 2006 at 10:48am |
|
go to the aquarium.. you need a break. |
|
|
When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
|
|
|
|
|
herjihad
Senior Member
Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2473 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 17 April 2006 at 12:24pm |
|
Bismillah, The Aquarium sounds soothing to me! Many cities have foster pet programs. You can help a pet find a loving home instead of being euthanized and have something to care for and get your mind off your lonliness at the same time. Stop waiting for your husband to change when you need to take care of yourself; just do it. ISA next year things will improve for you. Do small things now to keep your sanity and your peace in your home as well. May Allah, SWT, guide and keep you both. |
|
|
Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.
|
|
|
|
|
Moona
Groupie
Joined: 11 April 2006 Status: Offline Points: 48 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 17 April 2006 at 8:09pm |
|
Thank you for all your encouragement. I have decieded that I WILL go to the aquarium by myself this week,probably tomarrow,or thursday. He sleeps all day,so he wont even miss me. About fostering pets,my husband just would NOT go for that at all. He grew up with no animals allowed in his home,or in any other families homes.MAYBE a cat,but NEVER a dog or any other animal. I am no longer going to depend on him to do things with me. I had a dog before I reverted and married my husband. She was a beauty.And I loved her dearly,and it broke my heart to have to give her up. She was a 3 year old chocolate Lab I had named Sophie. It's been three years since I gave her to a really great family,but she is still in my heart. That is a question I have about Islam that my husband just hasnt been able to answer. Is it sin to own dogs? Anyway,what done is done.I will take control of MY life and will stop sitting home all the time WAITING for him to do something fun with me.Spring is here,and I wont spend it wasting away and not LIVING LIFE! I was so lonely before I got married,I HAD thought that once I married,I would have my husband to go do fun things with.LOL Anyway,thank you all.Dont be surprized though if I continue to need encouragement.
 ---Moona
|
|
|
Moonie
|
|
|
|
|
Moona
Groupie
Joined: 11 April 2006 Status: Offline Points: 48 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 17 April 2006 at 8:13pm |
|
|
|
Moonie
|
|
|
|
|
superme
Senior Member 
Joined: 03 April 2006 Location: Cocos (Keeling) Islands Status: Offline Points: 463 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 18 April 2006 at 2:40am |
|
Can a sister or sisters clarify it to us that men also allow to post in here? Well Suleyman I think is a brother. And if this my my post appear than that is the case. Clarification I think would be helpful. Thanks and salaam. Edited by superme |
|
|
|
|
herjihad
Senior Member
Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2473 |
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 18 April 2006 at 4:05am |
|
Bismillah, You could even pet sit and make money at it while you temporarily enjoy a pet. If he doesn't like dogs, foster a cat or feed a stray outside. He'd probably go nuts if you got gerbils, but if you keep them in a cage, they can be really sweet creatures. They are cleaner than birds in that their mess stays in the cage whereas bird feathers and seed hulls get on the floor with birds. (I need to caution that they are really hard to catch sometimes when they get out of their cages and they like to chew wood!) Look up the post about dogs by typing dogs in the forum search for more information/discussion on dogs and people's views of them in Islaam. I made a similar choice myself and I often wonder how wise that was! Hee Hee! But I have three beautiful children (even though they are messy also!) Brother Super: Some sisters do not like male input on certain issues that they post, and I think that would be a good rule to follow: Don't post on a topic that the topic starter requested only male or only female input. But then again, when everyone else is doing it, why sholdn't you? Well, it's just polite, so it would be following an unstated rule. Edited by herjihad |
|
|
Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.
|
|
|
|
|
Post Reply
|
Page 123 4> |
Tweet
|
| Forum Jump | Forum Permissions You cannot post new topics in this forum You cannot reply to topics in this forum You cannot delete your posts in this forum You cannot edit your posts in this forum You cannot create polls in this forum You cannot vote in polls in this forum |
Topic Options
Suleyman wrote: