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   Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
I need advice on something that's been on my mind. Recently I've had an attraction to one guy, he was really nice to me and funny. A few months ago he went through something in his private life and our communication has been strained and it left me confused as to whether I have done something wrong, he really only types in one-word sentences, reads my messages, and doesn't reply even when I try to check up on him and ask if he's okay. Sometimes he even apologized and said he never meant to do it on purpose. I have prayed Istikhara because I needed guidance towards whether if he is someone I should continue to have in my life and will eventually work out or move on. I've gotten specific signs on Instagram about our separation and how he wants to come back in my life and how he regrets leaving so suddenly. Some of these signs even included he had sexual fantasies for me, could these signs be from the Istikhara or just coincidence or trickery from shaytaan. I even clicked "not interested" on those posts since they take up my Instagram page but they still come back. One of my friends who partake in Quran class or Dugsi said that these specific signs could be from Allah (swt) since they're clear and show something very specific both to my experiences and in general.

I have the intention of keeping this relationship halal even if it means staying as just friends but I would really like this to work out since I think that he is a really nice person and we share many common interests. I don't think he has many people he's friends with and he even told me this which is why I want to be in his life so he won't feel almost alone. During a rough patch in his life, I used to pray for him every day. Is there anything else I could do that can help guide me to a decision?

Jazakallahu Dhamir Khitab.

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rj2slick Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Islam Joined: 02 January 2022 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote rj2slick Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Need Advice Posted: 02 January 2022 at 1:27pm
	Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. I need advice on something that's been on my mind. Recently I've had an attraction to one guy, he was really nice to me and funny. A few months ago he went through something in his private life and our communication has been strained and it left me confused as to whether I have done something wrong, he really only types in one-word sentences, reads my messages, and doesn't reply even when I try to check up on him and ask if he's okay. Sometimes he even apologized and said he never meant to do it on purpose. I have prayed Istikhara because I needed guidance towards whether if he is someone I should continue to have in my life and will eventually work out or move on. I've gotten specific signs on Instagram about our separation and how he wants to come back in my life and how he regrets leaving so suddenly. Some of these signs even included he had sexual fantasies for me, could these signs be from the Istikhara or just coincidence or trickery from shaytaan. I even clicked "not interested" on those posts since they take up my Instagram page but they still come back. One of my friends who partake in Quran class or Dugsi said that these specific signs could be from Allah (swt) since they're clear and show something very specific both to my experiences and in general. I have the intention of keeping this relationship halal even if it means staying as just friends but I would really like this to work out since I think that he is a really nice person and we share many common interests. I don't think he has many people he's friends with and he even told me this which is why I want to be in his life so he won't feel almost alone. During a rough patch in his life, I used to pray for him every day. Is there anything else I could do that can help guide me to a decision? Jazakallahu Dhamir Khitab.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 January 2022 at 6:45am
	Wa alaikum Salaam RB, I read what you have stated above as a clear sign you should move on. As painful as this will be, he has already made his decision to end the relationship, which trusting in Allah, is in your best interest. Don't waste your time attempting to make sense out of nonsense. Use that time to heal. Allah bless you with good in this life and the next.

Mitchell Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Islam Joined: 25 August 2022 Location: USA Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mitchell Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 August 2022 at 10:38am
	Wa Alikum Salaam In istikhara, the seeker of Allah’s will goes through a number of steps to discover divine guidance. Through supplications and repetitions of certain verses, the seeker hopes to receive positive messages or predictions. The seeker then shares this prediction with a trusted individual, and only then abides by the advice he or she received. I have read an article about Istikhara click here to read about Istikhara Dua and its full method