Why you shouldn’t marry career woman

candid wrote: http://in.rediff.com/money/2006/aug/24forbes1.htm

Bismillah,

This article has so many flaws in its lack of reasoned approach to family life.  They are just too numerous for me to take the time to point each one out.

Salaamu Alaykum

A few questions:

What does it mean by career woman?

Does it mean a woman who is working her profession? Or a woman who works 80 hours every two weeks? It says in the following:

To be clear, we're not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a "career girl" has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year.

So if you're highly educated and work more than 35 hours a wekk and generate over $30k a year you are in this category of a career woman?

I also made the note that Forbes.com tend to focus most on "wealthy" and/ "rich" people or studies/articles involving well off individuals I mean look at the following slide shows it provides as part of its evidence:

• Slideshow: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Career Woman
• Slideshow: Billionaire Divorces
• Slideshow: Billionaire Weddings
  • Slideshow: Billionaire Women We Envy
  • Slideshow: The World's Most Powerful Women

If you asked me I think these tools for evidence are unrealistic seeing how 1% of the U.S population are considered billionares or "wealthy." Also I asked what evidence does this article show (besides naming social scientist and their study) as proof that Middle-Class Women suffer from marriage failures as well as men? What about medical professional with degrees in medicine? What does it show for them? Even if we were to judge based on class I'd like to know the most likely class that would divorce in marriage. Also it can depend on what profession you choose.

If you're a cop and the mother is a homemaker then I can see if there would be tension. Or if both parents were cop I'd see that there wouldn't be AS much tension. So the article has briefly touched upon some of these issues but it doesn't provide enough info (as well as stats) to prove its argument. The only standout argument this goes on is:

The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they'll meet someone they like more than you. "The work environment provides a host of potential partners," researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, "and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals."

This really isn't a concrete argument because yo can say the same for a stay at home mother.....Ever heard of "Desperate Housewives?"

If you asked me I think these tools for evidence are unrealistic seeing how 1% of the U.S population are considered billionares or "wealthy." Also I asked what evidence does this article show (besides naming social scientist and their study) as proof that Middle-Class Women suffer from marriage failures as well as men? What about medical professional with degrees in medicine? What does it show for them? Even if we were to judge based on class I'd like to know the most likely class that would divorce in marriage. Also it can depend on what profession you choose.

According to the article:-

In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women's work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men's work hours often have no statistical effect.