Are Good Muslim Men Still Around?

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   Sisters,
I'd like your opinions. I have 5 daughters who are still very young but I worry about them finding good husbands. There is a widely held belief out there that there are no good men left, all the good men are married, no man wants to take care of a family anymore, etc. Do you believe this is true or are people just exaggerating?

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taliyya Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 28 September 2006 Status: Offline Points: 71	Post Options Post Reply Quote taliyya Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Are Good Muslim Men Still Around? Posted: 03 October 2006 at 5:33pm
	Sisters, I'd like your opinions. I have 5 daughters who are still very young but I worry about them finding good husbands. There is a widely held belief out there that there are no good men left, all the good men are married, no man wants to take care of a family anymore, etc. Do you believe this is true or are people just exaggerating?

lady Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 20 September 2006 Status: Offline Points: 314	Post Options Post Reply Quote lady Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 03 October 2006 at 5:55pm
	Taliyya, AssalaamuAlaikum. People have always wondered about whether or not if there are any good men around. If your great great grandmother is living, asked her if women worried about this in her day. Then asked your grandmother and mother the same question. I personally believe that most things can not happen unless people tolerate it. If there are no good men around then who do we blame? Do we just blame men? No. You can not change what you tolerate. I understand your concern but sister if we try hard to make ourselves happy, and encourage our friends and family to do the same, then this will ony have a ripple effect on society. people will stop doing crazy things. We can only control overselves to a degree. When we worry about things that we can not control is only a waste of our time and is a waste of our life. Edited by lady

UmmTaaha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 10 August 2006 Location: Japan Status: Offline Points: 159	Post Options Post Reply Quote UmmTaaha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 03 October 2006 at 7:16pm
	One must first discern for oneself what entails goodness in a man or a woman. It is recommended through sunnah of the prophet (saw) to marry one's daughters to a man of taqwa, for if he does not like her, he will still treat her with kindness. The times have not yet come insha allah where men having taqwa and khashiya of allah cease to exist. Train your daughters to be pious muslimas and pray to allah that He sends for them good believing men who would treat them as one should in Islam. Edited by UmmTaaha

rookaiya Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 04 May 2005 Location: South Africa Status: Offline Points: 385	Post Options Post Reply Quote rookaiya Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 03 October 2006 at 10:55pm
	interesting topic lady i like the way u put it by saying that most things cannot happen unless people tolerate it. i never thought about it that way before. in deed your post has now given me food for thought as to whether there are any good men still around, i guess thats a question of opinion cos everyone has different expectations n different levels of understanding. what appears to me to be a great man could by some elses standards be the worse man ever. so it all boils down to the individual. thats my view

najamsahar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 21 June 2006 Location: Saudi Arabia Status: Offline Points: 151	Post Options Post Reply Quote najamsahar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 04 October 2006 at 2:09am
	Lady, I agree with you 100% NS

sakeena Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 25 December 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 68	Post Options Post Reply Quote sakeena Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 04 October 2006 at 5:25pm
	I used to think all Muslim men were good and I was safe marrying within my religion. Don't get me wrong, I'll never marry a kafr. But now, after reading all the "horror" (for lack of words) stories, I'm seriously considering signing a prenupual when I do get married. Quite frankly, I'm scared salaam.

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 04 October 2006 at 6:36pm
	Insha'allah your daughters will be good women and Allah will bless them to find good husbands. How are things in Gambia? Are the men hard-working and religious? What about the unemployment rate in Gambia? Are you planning to send your daughters abroad for study when they're older?

najamsahar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 21 June 2006 Location: Saudi Arabia Status: Offline Points: 151	Post Options Post Reply Quote najamsahar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 October 2006 at 1:41am
	There are as many mothers of young men who are wondering if there will be "good muslim men" for their sons. NS