Does Islam Look bad in Polygamy?

Marriage is a noble act which is also part of life. Children are the result of this act and from this human existance sustained or even growing. Polygyny is an act of necessaty when the number of men are lower than th females. When a wife lost the husband for any reason it is a noble act for a married man to marry the lonely and the needy widow instead of making du'a and debating about them because the old opinion said so. These the voices of old are need to be rectified. Just like the law in the OT which forbid the flesh of camels. Camels were very valuable animals for transportation need, and it was not wise to use them as food consumption, just like the cows in India in the past. But when the number of camels were reasonably high than it was allowed to be consumed as it is written in the Qur'an.

But it is nothing more than greed or lust when having more than one wife when many men struggling to find one. In the end common sense applies.

Bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

There are so many things that people would say that causes a shame to them, its just that our understanding falls short not that particular law. Because those beautifull laws are made by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and nothing less of perfect comes from our Lord.

I have noticed that us muslims have made a habbit that things we dont understand we call it not necessary to believe if we dont want to. I dont even think that wanting another wife is only allowed in necessaty, ayah of Holy Quran uses words which means like a women not need another women. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has made nature of men and women different. A women when she gets married and have kids with some1, keeping in mind that according to islam she dint have no relationship before that, she makes a special bond and love for her husband and father of her kids. Unless he treats her unjust there is very less chance that she would want to look some where else. A man however is different, i am not trying to say he looks for some1 else but even though he is in a blissful marriage, he could still like another lady. In this case it is permitted that he gives his likeness a halal form and thats all Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is allowing. But if you look at the ayaat then scholars say that emphasis in those ayaat is not having more than one but it emphasizes one but allows more.

At end of the day sister we are being unjust to our own soul by trying to make excuses because if we sincerely want to learn and understand some thing all we need is to ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for better understanding. And believe me He is so Mercifull that He hates to send us back empty handed.

wassalam

 which part?

If I may join this discussion.  It is one that has affected my church (the Mormons) for many years.  The anti polygamy laws that are in place in the United States are a direct result of the persecution of my people.  We resisted for many years, but eventually, the United States government threatened to take our Temples, homes and farms if we did not end the Practice.  The President of our Church at the time prayed what to do about it and the Lord commanded us to obey the law and protect out temples.

Many of these marriages were not "paper" marriages, meaning there was only a religious ceremony and no registration with the government.  The same is the case with the Fundamentalists in Southern Utah and Northern Arizona.  They only marry one wife legally and the others spiritually.  But, legally, they can still be prosecuted under the law. 

They teach that polygamy is a requirement of men.  From what I understand in Islam, a man is not required to take more than one wife.  He's actually commanded not to unless they can treat all their wives equally. 

The question becomes, is a man treating his wives equally if the family becomes in jeopardy by the breaking of the law.  According to US inheritance laws (which are far from Islamic) and other laws, Polygamous wives would not get social security benefits from their husbands, health insurance or legal protection in the case of a divorce because she's not really married.  The courts could not enforce maintenance and property rights would be a real issue.

Also, the second wife would not be recognized as legally his wife.  Although the Islamic community might see them as married, the rest would not.  Her children would be in a purely legal term, illegitimate, and she would face social stigma.  Is this far to her? 

What would be the need for a woman to live like this?  Is it treating her fairly and equally.  If the husband dies, in the US, by default, the first wife would get everything.  This is especially the case if the husband was young and didn't have his will set up properly.  If the first wife despises the second wife (is happens sadly) she could really hurt her co-wife.  Human failings are many.

I wish we could change society that things like polygamy were more accepted and things like homosexuality were not.  However, the US is a hypocritical government.  They can make no law that favors one religious belief, but yet, they banned polygamy. 

Fundamentalist Mormons occasionally sue for the anti-polygamy laws to be repealed.  The Main Church tried and failed many many many years ago.

If Muslims wish to practice plural marriage, then I really suggest they start challenging the laws.  However, I don't think its fair that even though my faith accepts the practice, that we cannot disrespect the laws of the land and yet, you seem so willing to do so.

If a Muslim man is that desperate for a second wife, perhaps he should rethink living in a place where that is illegal.

This country is disintegrating morally, and we are losing our values.  I really wonder sometimes why people WANT to live here.