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umsami ![]() Groupie ![]() Joined: 12 May 2005 Status: Offline Points: 75 |
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Assalamu Alaikum: One other one that I'd add (that is important).. what couple's marriage in our community do you admire? would you be willing to ask them to mentor us during our first few years of marriage?? (Ideally, not somebody you're related because they tend to take sides.) Also, Ask about wills... do you agree with the Islamic concept of wills? How would you take care of me should you die and our kids were still young? ARe you a saver or a spender? Regarding the IVF/adopting/can't have kids... be sure to ask two ways... one if the medical issue was with me, the other with you... I've found out that guys who may not have been so hot about adoption suddenly think it's a good idea when their equipment has the issues. If there is a discrepency... ask why the difference? Also...be sure to ask about family expectations regarding who you marry... both sides. Can be very difficult to live with if you are not the xyz-speaking girl that they always wanted their son to marry. Even if he has no issues with it. If you have interfaith friends, ask if it is OK for you to attend church, synogogue, temple with them if they asked. What if it's for a wedding or baptism? Also...look for books that deal with situation questions (there used to be a game called Scruples that did this)... "What would you do if... " -you found out that our daughter was no longer a virgin? -Allah(swt) gave you a choice. You could either live another one year and know the time of your death or live at least ten years and not know when you would die. Which would you prefer, why? -If you don't wear hijab.. .if I decided to wear hijab. If you do, I decided to take it off. -You found out that I was no longer praying. Would it matter why? How would you help me to get back on track? How would you deal if you found out your husband was no longer praying? -you won a million dollars? -you knew that you could do this xyz and not be caught. Would you do it? |
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Angela ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Joined: 11 July 2005 Status: Offline Points: 2555 |
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I actually did assume you were American. But, I'm here to build bridges. Thank you for giving me a chance. Thanks for the information too. |
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ak_m_f ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Joined: 15 October 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 3272 |
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To all the Non muslims, stop funding Salman's India right now. see it choke before your eyes today. ![]() |
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Angela ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Joined: 11 July 2005 Status: Offline Points: 2555 |
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Nah Ak, I have to many HINDU friends in India, not to love that country. But, then again, Lakshmi ran away with an American boy and got married to avoid an arranged marriage and Purvi is here...as are the Patels. Hey, I guess I don't need to help....I mean, they are getting all our jobs anyway right??? |
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