Sisters please help make me strong!!!

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   Salaams and hi
Sisters please give me tips to be more assertive.
I am very soft natured and my husband to be and in laws are tramping all over me.
Regards and thanks
infomagination

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infomagination Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 23 October 2002 Location: South Africa Status: Offline Points: 274	Post Options Post Reply Quote infomagination Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Sisters please help make me strong!!! Posted: 09 September 2007 at 11:57pm
	Salaams and hi Sisters please give me tips to be more assertive. I am very soft natured and my husband to be and in laws are tramping all over me. Regards and thanks infomagination Edited by infomagination
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shayz Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 05 September 2007 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote shayz Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 September 2007 at 7:54am
	Wa Alaikum Salaam, I had a similar problem to yours too, when i was engaged before. My then future husband and his parents were very dominating and it was really tough for me. I suggest you first confront your husband and tell him how you feel about everything. If you do not stand up for yourself it will go on and on, and you will be miserable. I am now married to a wonderful man and his family are really good to me, alhamdulillah. It takes courage to confront someone, but surely your feelings should mean something to them if they really care about you. It always helps to speak out. You do not have to be rude or offensive, be calm and say what you feel. I hope all will work out for you InshAllah... Read this dua, it may be helpful... Dua when confronted by a difficult situation or task: All�humma l� sahia ill� ma ja�altah� sahlan, wa anta taj�alul-huzna idha shi�ta sahl�. O Allah, an easy task is only that which You make easy and You make a d easy, when You wish. (Al-Nasai) Edited by shayz