Disobedience

We are in a test period, unless the child and the family say yes to the adoption. The child has strange ideas about society, he thinks he can steal everything, because the assistant protect him, now the child do not want to give 50 left euros and the assistant do not want to help about this, we are not in economical condition we can give the money he steals... and it is not correct, how to educate the child if we pay the money he takes, he could do it other times... we told many times he should not do these things, we give him attention, we say he's clever and should help others, but he does the contrary we say and now he's happy because he thinks he can go in the family care with 50 euros... in the family we are in a state of confusion, we cannot understand why he does this, when we ask he says because he wants. In other families he went, the sons went to the psychologist because of the kid's behaviour of stealing stuff in the family and leaving it at school or in other places, to annoy for several hours in more weeks also in the night and to make conflict in the parents, neighbours or people they know, the same things he does now with us, but we did not know anything about this and for more than two years we did not say anything to other people of his behaviour, but now he involved other people... At the foundation he had the same behaviour, but the assistant tries to cover the fact. The child now do not want absolutely to stay with us, is it a sin if they take him because of his will, that is not reasonable because he wants to take the money?

Not an Islamic opinion, but I have worked with many such situations.

Many children would be happy to be raised in a pious, Islamic environment. There are also many children so damaged that they will end up in prison or even worse, no matter what.

Every parent learns they can only guide their children. They cannot control them.

Since this is a trial period, make sure your strengths align with the desires of the child. Jesus had two famous sayings: "Do not try to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear", and "Do not cast your pearls before swine".

There is a child waiting who fits your family well. God has a plan for this incalcitrant child, but perhaps your returning him to the foundation is the guidance he needs. Do not deny a more promising child by wasting effort on one who is unworthy.

Adopting a child is more difficult than marriage! Be careful in matchmaking for mutual benefit. This child is who will care for you in your declining years.