Her parents won't agree

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   Salam my Muslim brothers and sisters,

I am in a position that I never hoped I would be in. I met a girl 2 years ago and she made me feel better, she made me get closer to Allah and a better Muslim as well as helped in my general. We fell in love and I know that I would like to spend my life with her.

I know that she is right for me as she has helped me become better. I believe that my parents will be hard to convince but they will listen. However, her parents are against any idea of this. She has brought up the idea of choosing who to marry and her mother has disagreed with her a lot. I am a Pakistani and she is Bengali, were both in late teens, early twenties but her parents have told her that they are looking for a guy for her and have a guy in mind who is 30. She doesn't want to marry him and wants to spend her life with me as do I. 

I need help. I am stuck and feel like there is nothing I can do. I can't risk losing someone like this and Ii don't want to see her go through anything like this.

Please, any advice would be appreciated.

Edited by justauser - 30 November 2016 at 10:23am

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justauser Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Joined: 30 November 2016 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote justauser Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Her parents won't agree Posted: 30 November 2016 at 10:19am
	Salam my Muslim brothers and sisters, I am in a position that I never hoped I would be in. I met a girl 2 years ago and she made me feel better, she made me get closer to Allah and a better Muslim as well as helped in my general. We fell in love and I know that I would like to spend my life with her. I know that she is right for me as she has helped me become better. I believe that my parents will be hard to convince but they will listen. However, her parents are against any idea of this. She has brought up the idea of choosing who to marry and her mother has disagreed with her a lot. I am a Pakistani and she is Bengali, were both in late teens, early twenties but her parents have told her that they are looking for a guy for her and have a guy in mind who is 30. She doesn't want to marry him and wants to spend her life with me as do I. I need help. I am stuck and feel like there is nothing I can do. I can't risk losing someone like this and Ii don't want to see her go through anything like this. Please, any advice would be appreciated. Edited by justauser - 30 November 2016 at 10:23am

syed_z Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 16 February 2014 Status: Offline Points: 116	Post Options Post Reply Quote syed_z Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 November 2016 at 9:31pm
	(Al Quran - 2:216)... but it may well be that you hate a thing the while it is good for you, and it may well be that you love a thing the while it is bad for you: and God knows, whereas you do not know The best way to decide a matter is to pray 2 Rakah Nafl and do istikhara. Istikhara helps a Muslim to entrust his affair to Allah (swt) and let Him decide what is best for you. Jaabir ibn Abd-Allah al-Salami (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: �The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to teach his companions to make istikhaarah in all things, just as he used to teach them soorahs from the Quran. He said: �If any one of you is concerned about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rakaahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi �ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as�aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta�lamu wa laa a�lam, wa anta �allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta�lamu haadha�l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi �aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma�aashi wa �aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta�lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma�aashi wa �aaqibati amri (or: fi �aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni �anhu [wasrafhu �anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma ardini bihi O Allah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.