Marriage Problems- OI dont know what to do

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   I am currently going through a very tough time in my marriage. 

 My parents don't have a very good view of my wife, because the way she has reacted to them on a couple of occasions. 

 I feel she overreacted one night and just panicked for no reason when she phoned her uncle and auntie, because I was suggesting to her to get rid of the fotoeus (assumingly she was pregnant) as she might be pregnant, but this has not yet been confirmed., her uncle and auntie took her away from my parents home where we lived). 

 I begged her not to call any one ,as I knew it may stir trouble between the families and break our family pride, but she didn't listen and she phoned her uncle and auntie, and she cried on the phone, when they came this caused really massive and heated argument between them and my parents 

 I only suspected she was pregnant because she had missed her periods, so I only said to her to get rid of it some how, I;e by taking after morning tablets or go to the doctor etc 

 So my parents and I don't have a very good view of her uncle and auntie who have been heavily involved to stay with her as her parents are living abroad. 

 I really love my parents, but I also have to be committed to my wife as its my responsibility. 

 Do you believe my wife did over react by calling her uncle and auntie, Please advise what is the best thing to do in this situation? and what would any of you do? 

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goodluck Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Joined: 13 June 2016 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote goodluck Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Marriage Problems- OI dont know what to do Posted: 13 June 2016 at 1:59am
	I am currently going through a very tough time in my marriage. My parents don't have a very good view of my wife, because the way she has reacted to them on a couple of occasions. I feel she overreacted one night and just panicked for no reason when she phoned her uncle and auntie, because I was suggesting to her to get rid of the fotoeus (assumingly she was pregnant) as she might be pregnant, but this has not yet been confirmed., her uncle and auntie took her away from my parents home where we lived). I begged her not to call any one ,as I knew it may stir trouble between the families and break our family pride, but she didn't listen and she phoned her uncle and auntie, and she cried on the phone, when they came this caused really massive and heated argument between them and my parents I only suspected she was pregnant because she had missed her periods, so I only said to her to get rid of it some how, I;e by taking after morning tablets or go to the doctor etc So my parents and I don't have a very good view of her uncle and auntie who have been heavily involved to stay with her as her parents are living abroad. I really love my parents, but I also have to be committed to my wife as its my responsibility. Do you believe my wife did over react by calling her uncle and auntie, Please advise what is the best thing to do in this situation? and what would any of you do?

semar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Islam Joined: 11 March 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1830	Post Options Post Reply Quote semar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 15 June 2016 at 4:03pm
	In Islam it's not allowed to do abortion.
	Salam/Peace, Semar "We are people who do not eat until we are hungry and do not eat to our fill." (Prophet Muhammad PBUH) "1/3 of your stomach for food, 1/3 for water, 1/3 for air"

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 June 2016 at 5:52am
	Generally speaking married couples are overjoyed with the news of a pregnancy. Why have you responded to your wife in such a manner when the possibility of a pregnancy arises?

Tim the plumber Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 30 September 2014 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 944	Post Options Post Reply Quote Tim the plumber Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 June 2016 at 11:44am
	I can see why your wife is very upset with you and your family. Why do you want to noy have a baby?

fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 June 2016 at 6:47pm
	Assalam Alikum, Fight happens between couples and when it happens Women are the soft target of Shaitan and that is the reason woman does not have the right to say talaq to finish the marraige but they have to ask for Khula when she is in proper state of her mind. relation with parents is a devine relation but relation with your wife is the most dear to Allah. so be just and try to solve this using example of Prophet S.A.W. Hadith: Narrated Aisha (raa): That Allah�s Apostle (saws) said to her, �I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.� I said, �Whence do you know that?� He said, �When you are pleased with me, you say, �No, by the Lord of Muhammad,� but when you are angry with me, then you say, �No, by the Lord of Abraham.� � Thereupon I said, �Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah�s Apostle, I leave nothing but your name.�